YOUR SOUL SONG
- from a story told by Alan Cohen in his book, Wisdom Of The Heart
When  a woman in a certain African tribe knows she is pregnant, she goes out  into the wilderness with a few friends and together they pray and  meditate until they hear the song of the child. They recognize that  every soul has its own vibration that expresses its unique flavor and  purpose. When the women attune to the song, they sing it out loud. Then  they return to the tribe and teach it to everyone else. 
When the  child is born, the community gathers and sings the child's song to him  or her. Later, when the child enters education, the village gathers and  chants the child's song. When the child passes through the initiation to  adulthood, the people again come together and sing. At the time of  marriage, the person hears his or her song.
Finally, when the  soul is about to pass from this world, the family and friends gather at  the person's bed, just as they did at their birth, and they sing the  person to the next life.
To the African tribe there is one other  occasion upon which the villagers sing to the child. If at any time  during his or her life, the person commits a crime or aberrant social  act, the individual is called to the center of the village and the  people in the community form a circle around them. Then they sing their  song to them. The tribe recognizes that the correction for antisocial  behaviour is not punishment; it is love and the remembrance of identity.  When you recognize your own song, you have no desire or need to do  anything that would hurt another.
A friend is someone who knows  your song and sings it to you when you have forgotten it. Those who love  you are not fooled by mistakes you have made or dark images you hold  about yourself. They remember your beauty when you feel ugly; your  wholeness when you are broken; your innocence when you feel guilty; and  your purpose when you are confused.
You may not have grown up in  an African tribe that sings your song to you at crucial life  transitions, but life is always reminding you when you are in tune with  yourself and when you are not. When you feel good, what you are doing  matches your song, and when you feel awful, it doesn't. In the end, we  shall all recognize our song and sing it well.
